Advice on how to deal with an encounter at a gym locker room
For background, I’m a gay woman in my twenties and I’ve been going to the same gym for a couple of years now. Recently, a woman about my age started going to the same gym, and we’ll bump into each other in the locker room a couple days a week cause I guess our schedules are similar on those days. She seems very nice, we’ll have nice conversations, and both go about our day.
So it had been about a month of going to the same gym and chatting in the locker room every once in a while, and one day I casually mentioned my girlfriend in a conversation. I didn’t think anything of it, but she seemed to have a bit of a weird reaction. She kind of wrapped up the conversation super quickly and left.
So anyway, a couple days later we bump into each other in the locker room again, I was getting changed after a workout and she was just arriving. I say hi to her, she quickly says hi and picks up her workout clothes from her bag and goes to the bathroom. She then comes back, having changed into her workout clothes in the bathroom. This has now been happening every time we’re in the locker room at the same time, she’ll go into a single stall bathroom to change, even though we had been changing in front of each other for a while with no issue. She also doesn’t seem to be interested in chatting anymore and is almost ignoring me if I initiate any small talk.
So recently I asked her if I did something to make her uncomfortable, and she says “no, but I wouldn’t want to change in front of guys either.” It just made my heart drop and I didn’t really know what to make of it.
Obviously she can do whatever she wants and makes her comfortable, but I just feel awful about the whole situation. I’m wondering if I should say something to her? Or how I should handle it? A (male) friend suggested that I could just change my schedule so that we don’t run into each other, but I don’t think I did anything wrong so it feels weird to change my whole gym routine because of it. Anybody got any advice?